What do you think about money?
Do you think it is evil, uncomfortable, wrong to want it?
Do you feel kinda naughty inside to even consider getting it?
Well, that will be why you struggle to be happy, to live in abundance and to make as much money as you absolutely want!
Let’s just be clear NOW!
The connections you make with money determine how much of it you have!
So, you have to get a lot more deliberate about what is going on in your head because you are creating, creating, creating, whether you like it or not…
And you can create something good or you can create something bad – Completely up to you!
I say this to you because I have been uncovering some of the deeper connections inside of myself as I step up my business, step up my own growth and allow the wealth to flow and flow into my life.
And here are a few of the connections with money that came up for me and I wonder if they resonate with you…
1. Money Does Not Equal Love
I was brought up in Africa and somehow, what I got from my childhood was that if someone loves you then they give you money…
And if they do not give you money then they do not love you…
Was it what my parents and relatives wanted to teach me? I don’t think so but then I don’t know!
Is it just an African thing that there is such a strong connection of love to money?
You tell me!
What was it like in your family?
You have to ask these questions because if you do not, they keep playing out and prevent you from feeling happy unless you have lots of money to give people. If you are currently experiencing lack, then you will feel like you cannot be loved either and if you do not feel you deserve love then you cannot allow yourself to create money because you will feel bad inside.
And so the vicious cycle continues to hold you back from your full potential.
You are not free to be generous because it feels like you have to pay to get love and so you hold yourself back from the flow of money as well. Money must flow in and out, in and out and that is the natural way of money but when you have all these emotional connections made in your head, you hold on tight and halt the flow of money.
And you stop being a blessing to others as well.
Which then further reinforces the fact that you do not deserve to be rich!
All in all, if you make money and love be connected in your head, it holds you back.
2. Money Does Not Equal Control
This was another relic from my youth…
Did you have all the uncles and aunts give you money and then expect you to perform for them, obey them because they had showed you how much they loved you by giving you money?
Did you ever feel manipulated because of all the money people ‘graciously’ bestowed on you?
It may have felt like they were storing up goodwill with you so that they could use it at a later date to get you to do things for them…
Maybe people even did throw it in your face directly by saying things like…
“After all I have done for you…”
“And you call yourself a christian…”
And so you continually felt manipulated to do things because you owed them…
They had given you money and so now they got to make you do anything they wanted.
And even if you did not give into the nonsense, you just felt guilty all the time!
And again, that prevents happiness and stops you giving yourself permission to get wildly wealthy!
Money comes with too much emotional tension!
And so because you do not want to manipulate others or be manipulated, you hold back from doing what needs to be done to create wealth. Because you don’t want to be a controlling, manipulating so and so, like people have been to you.
And yet, money itself is completely, COMPLETELY inanimate…
It has no meaning except the one you give it.
It is time to set yourself free.
3. Money Does Not Equal A Lack Of Safety
Another one of those fallacies that played out in the back of my head was the fact that if I got too much money, then someone was going to come and take it away form me by force. Having had a few armed robbers come round my house in the past, it felt very real to think this way.
Money seemed to bring with it a sense of exposure…
If people thought I was rich, then they would harm me in order to get it.
And so therefore, I was not going to get it and I would then stay safe!
Even relatives used to steal from me in my childhood because we were considered to be a little wealthier than the rest, even though my dad was paralysed from his neck down and completely out of work. I felt so exposed growing up and all because we appeared to have a little money.
Nowhere felt safe at home and in my little head, it was all connected to money.
I still remember preferring to be at University because who knew what would happen in the night? WOuld armed robbers come again? Would I be exposed to danger again? All because of ‘money’?
Though this was my story, where does this play out in your life? Where do you feel you would be exposed if you suddenly started making lots of money?
YOu need to break through that nonsense or else, condemn yourself to experience lack forever, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU EARN!
4. Money does not equal being a bad person
This is a pretty obvious one, though maybe not to you!
I was brought up to despise anyone that seemed to get rich too quickly, particularly if they were in some way religious. It was assumed that they had done something wrong, something despicable and so, therefore, they were to be judged.
And so, whatever judgement you mete out, is exactly the one you are judged by!
And then there is the media stories that continually tell us of corruption and somehow, manage to link it to the fact that all rich people must be doing something evil.
And you lap up the nonsense without question!
Bad people come in all shapes and sizes, they are rich and they are poor – Money really has nothing to do with it.
Do you believe it, though?
You will never allow yourself to be bad, you know?! And so, unless you see the lie for what it is, you will not allow yourself to create wealth for you and yours.
5. Money does not equal being a good person
And then there are days when you think, like I used to think, that if I was just good enough then the gods would bestow me with all the wealth in the world.
If I worked hard enough…
If I obeyed the words in the good book enough…
And the truth again, is that money has nothing to do with all that.
You see so many good people workign their socks off, and getting nowhere and instead of paying attention to the way money really works, they get resentful and angry that they have given and given and given and still, they have nothing to show for it.
Open your eyes!
Take off the blinders!
That is not the way things work!
You can be as good as you like but unless you learn how to make money, unless you increase your value to the marketplace in a way that they like, you will remain broke forever. And you can beg and plead with the heavens all you like!
God has already given you everything you need to create wealth and it has nothing to do with whether you are good enough or not…
And you kinda already know that!
Because you already see that people you consider ‘wrong’ are making money in ways that you are not and it is annoying!
Ultimately, they are following the way the world and money really works and you are hoping for a handout from the heavens!
I know I am being a little harsh but I fell for this too!
I fell for it for the longest time…
And then I got deliberate about opening my eyes to reality in all of the above 5 areas and a lot more but you know what, this post is long enough so I will end it here.
Sometimes, to see the lies, is enough to be free from them…
Often times, it is not and you need to get some support to work through the nonsense and start to create as much wealth as you actually want in a way that suits you…
If that is you, then lets work together, you and I…
Let’s get it all dealt with and then get you taking the right actions to create wealth your way!
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