You can be loving and have boundaries…
You can deeply care for the people you are here to serve and support and live with, and still not lose yourself in their agendas…
And yet, we have all been taught that to be loving is to be self-less…
And not in a great, edifying way…
Nope.
Usually, in a lose-yourself-while-trying-to-please-them kinda way and that is eating you alive…
And in some cases, you may not even know it.
There is just this conflict within you…
You see your time passing by and you are still not fulfilling the dreams of your heart…
You see yourself giving, giving, GIVING and getting nothing back and you feel guilty that you want to get something back…
You think that you have to be so self-less that you are happy with being giving…
Honey, your insides are trying to get your attention but you are not listening to them…
OH NO!!!! You are listening to what the external feedback is…
You are scared of losing the people currently in your life, if you start to truly assert yourself…
And yet, you also rebel against the demands they place on you…
And you end up feeling torn.
To give in or to rebel? you wonder…
As if those are your only two options…
They are not.
You can choose to take each situation one at a time and decide what the best option is for you in that moment.
Honey, you, your dreams, your vision and purpose – All of that is important.
And while you run after fulfilling everyone else’s agenda, even in business/work, your agenda keeps taking a back seat…
Hence the feeling of unfulfilment that seems to reign inside of you at the moment… (well, it is one of the reasons)
You are looking to them for guidance on how to live your life…
You do not do it consciously all the time but you are doing it.
And it is time to realise that you can love them while not compromising your own dreams, vision, purpose.
It will take courage to step back from just going along with things, like you always have…
And yes, this even means your relationship with your partner and kids will need re-evaluating.
Your relationship with your religious organisation and the people in it will need looking at..
Your relationship with your parents and friends will need re-assessing too…
Even the way you present yourself to clients, customers, if you are in business…
And the relationship you have with Spirit too – Is it one of appeasing him/her/it or is it a deeply connected, loving relationship that empowers you?
All of it needs re-evaluating…
Nothing is sacred.
Yes, love them but STOP compromising who you are.
Stop considering yourself the bottom of the pile – I know you are not thinking of it that way but it is what you are telling yourself over and over and over again when you ignore the promptings in your own heart and go along with whatever.
And even if you are aggressively rebelling against what people want from you – Can you not see that it is the same thing? Your energy is going to prove something when really, you can simply make a peaceful decision in each moment.
The only way you make a difference in the bigger, bolder way you feel called to, is to find yourself again…
To do the deep inner work of remembering who you really are.
Because it is YOU, the REAL YOU living out YOUR TRUE PURPOSE, that will make a difference on this planet.
And that ‘YOU’ will experience fulfilment, freedom, abundance. And deep down, that is what you look for.
It is time to wake up!
Fight for, deliberately design the life you are born to live…
Because you want to!
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