Your Emotions Will Help Or Hinder You In The Journey To A Free, Fulfilled, Abundant Life

I boobed yesterday…

I scratched our Merc into the wall as I came off the drive

I felt guilty

And silly

And victimised by the wall…

Which I know sounds silly!

But hey, that is how uncontrolled emotions can go, if you let them really dig right deep…

I felt as though my hubby should lock me up to punish me for my silliness…

And at the same time, felt like I would beat him up if he tried to make me feel guilty…

And though I exaggerate a bit about my emotions…

I do it so that you see that if I had let this silliness continue… (and to be completely honest, I did let it go on for longer than I would have preferred!)

If I had let my emotions continue to take me off on a merry go round trail to whoever knows where, then nothing actually gets fixed…

All I do is feel sorry for myself

And feel guilty which is also a useless emotion

And it wastes time

It takes my mind off things I do want to be getting on with…

It is almost like you have to PROVE THAT YOU ARE SORRY ENOUGH by feeling and feeling and feeling the guilt and the anger and the shame…

And so on.

But actually, the deed is done.

What is the point of all that crazy emotion?

To protect me from feeling sad because I had made a mistake.

Let me clarify, there are primary feelings – In this case – Sorrow & sadness, maybe a little grief and fear because I was at a stage in life when all my money was tied up in business so my husband would have to fix the car and I was afraid of his reaction.

And then there are secondary emotions – The guilt, the blaming, the feeling silly, the victimisation, the projecting anger onto my hubby.

We usually use secondary emotions to camouflage primary feelings.

We get scared of feeling what we really feel so we make it worse by getting super dramatic, all in an effort to not feel what we truly feel.

So, yes, you do need to cry and feel upset for a while and then release the primary feelings to the Divine, Affirm that the Divine is your source and then you simply ask for wisdom on the next step.

And move on.

Can you see how your/my emotions can make a mountain out of a molehill?

Everything can seem like a struggle and hardship, if you keep on with the indulging of secondary emotions…

When the truth is, you could simply say

“I made a mistake.  I feel sad about that.”

Then you cry a little, sit with the Divine and let the sadness pass through you.

Then you ask for a next step

And you move on.

The end.

Yes, if you really do take on board what I am saying here, people around you may think you are being callous and heartless…

They may tell you that you just do not care enough…

or that you live in la-la-land

But really, how does it help anything to dwell on it, make a drama of it and make yourself feel bad?

Your emotions can be a hindrance from seeing clearly what needs to be done.

Be diligent, honey.

The free, fulfilled, abundant life you desire will not be found at the end of a journey filled with guilt, shame, anger, self-pity etc no matter how justified you may think those emotions are in each moment.

SHIFT deliberately back to a place of joy and happy, after feeling & releasing the primary emotion.

Keep shifting until joy, peace and happy become your default state.

Life will feel better

Life will also GET better when you do this

And from a spiritual perspective, you do open up to more of your good, when you FEEL good!

TO REEMPHASIZE – This is not about repressing your emotions.

It is about feeling the REAL feeling and not getting caught up in all the dramatic ones.