I get it…
Things have happened…
PEOPLE have happened and they have caused you to doubt yourself but honey…
They are not the creator of your life… YOU ARE!
Events do not get to define you… YOU DO!
And whatever it is that you have been through gives you the exact strength that you need to propel yourself forward if you will do the work of getting your head in the right place and your actions to follow suit.
At the moment, your actions are following your thought pattern of blame and shame and ‘How I wish things had been different’.
Things are not different, what happened, happened and you have within you the ability to get through it. However, you seem to be forgetting that.
And no, honey, you cannot just ignore things because they seem too painful to manage – You have to face this head on.
This is what I know you are doing…
YOu are lying to yourself about what you are capable of. I know you are already doing good things but you are called to do GREAT things and your internal language is getting in the way of you making things happen. You are playing not to lose rather than playing to win and so you have put a cap on the results that you allow yourself to get.
And honey, you really are the creator of your successful life.
1. What do you want? Really REALLY Want?
It is time to spark up that dream again. You may have looked at this recently but now I want you to ask yourself – What would I be doing (creating) if I knew I had no limitations? Or an alternative question – What would my life look like if I had a million dollars in the bank?
You might even need to ask the question “What would I be doing right now, if I did not have to take care of ________ (fill in the gap – Children, parents, spouse, siblings, friends) ?” because you may have put your own life on hold trying to ‘do the right thing’.
Go on, really write down what you want out of your life, your business, your relationships, your spirituality, every aspect of your life.
2. What is stifling you? What do you think gets in the way?
Acknowledge the events, the circumstances that seem to stop you but do not stop there. In this step, I just want you to write out every reason you have given yourself not to create your successful life and business.
There is no right or wrong here – there is just what you believe to be true. No judgement, no filtering because you think yo ‘should not’ think this way. You do think this way so face it head on. Shine a light on the things that keep you bound.
3. Reframe Everything DELIBERATELY
So you know what you want and you know what you do not want. Now, take a little time to look at each ‘reason not to’ differently. How else could you position that event so that it empowers you, rather than puts you down?
Yes, you do not lots of spare cash running around to market and promote your business so how else can you do it? Can you make more time to do the work of promotion, instead and connect with other business owners who serve the same audience as you?
Do you need to find an investor? How can you strengthen your business plan to make it more attractive to funding?
What if you always came from the assumption that ‘THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY!’ – What difference could that make to your ability to find creative solutions to every concern you have had. The thing about shining a light on your ‘reasons not to’ is that you can now VERY DELIBERATELY find a way around it and start to play to win, rather than play not to lose.
4. Follow Through On Your Plans
It seems obvious but let me be clear that nothing will change while you are navel-gazing! NOthing at all! Yes, we do need to do some navel-gazing from time to time to figure out our own complicated ways but ultimately, without action, it is all for nothing. So, make sure you have a plan of attack and that you follow that plan.
In fact, make sure that every single day, you have a few daily disciplines that you perform habitually because success can really be found in your habits. If you chose to follow something like the 90 minute plan (RosemaryNonnyKnight.com/90min) on a daily basis while figuring your head nonsense out, you will find that you progress on the two levels of your life – the levels I call ‘Action’ and ‘Clarity’ and as you do them both together, you will create wealth and success and you will know that you and you alone, are the creator of your successful life.
No matter what has happened…
No matter who did what to who…
You can fight for and create the life, business you want.