Which Role Do You Play In Relationships? Victim Or Saviour?

Just so we are clear, neither the victim or the saviour is ideal.
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Most of us would never admit to being the victim, of course.
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But I believe you can probably identify with being the saviour because you are that person who wants to help the world.
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You see it as your calling in life to be of service.
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And it does sound great.
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EXCEPT…
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I listen to peeps speak and you know what, I too have been this person so no judgment from me.
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But I listen in to the saviours and there is a sense that they are strong and everyone else is too weak to stand on their own 2 feet.
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There is the feeling that if the saviour does not save the day, then no one else can or will.
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And there is resentment within the saviour.
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So fed up of always being there but no one else is ever there for them.
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Unfortunately, they have set life up this way. They have always appeared to have it all together. They have always appeared to be the strong one that needs nothing but then they resent it when people treat them this way.
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We can be crazy!
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Listen to the way you think and speak about other people.
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Do you feel in any area of life that unless you do it, no one else can or will? And do you resent having to always be the one that others need, while at the same time, rushing to their rescue?

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Then you are playing the role of saviour and it is tiring.
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The other side of this is: Are you hoping that someone will come and save the day for you because of all the bad stuff that has happened in your life or because of where you live or because you just don’t think you can figure it out without help from some person, and it is usually a specific person that you have fixed all your hopes on? Be it child, partner, parent, friend, sibling – You keep needing them to come save you from life situations and you may even feel it is your right, after everything you have done for them, in the past.
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Then you are playing the victim.
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This is the thing – We are all powerful beings.
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We all have the power to design and create our lives the way we want it.
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We do not need to be dependent on anyone and we do not need to save anyone.
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But because we live in a world that praises victimhood, you may think it is selfish to think this way.
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But maybe, just maybe, you are getting tired of your life not working.
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Maybe, just maybe, you are done with feeling drained and resentful all the time.
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Maybe, just maybe, you are fed up of putting your dreams on the shelf while continually getting dragged into everyone else’s dramas and nonsense.
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Maybe, it is time to put some boundaries in place, take a time out and go within.
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Simple prayer: Divine, I want to see where I am holding on to others to fill a hole in me. I release my need to be filled by others and I lean into You. You are my source and I find my home in you. I rest in your love. Amen.
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You may not realise it but whether you play victim or saviour, you are trying to get your needs met from someone who is trying to get their needs met by you.
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You are both pulling from empty.
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And if you are that saviour type that sees injustice in the world and thinks that everyone ‘out there’ is a victim that needs you to speak on their behalf, also check in with yourself.
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Remember, no one is weak and powerless.
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They may choose to live as though they are and that is their right.
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But you check in with your motivation.
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Are you full of love and seeking to be a beacon of love in the world?
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Or are you getting needs for attention, drama and a weird kind of love, met by yelling on social media about how much injustice exists in organisations?
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The foundation of your action will determine whether the fruit of your action will be good or draining to the recipients of your ‘help’.
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Take the time to notice where your need to help or be helped is coming from.
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And go within to the true source of all love.
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Fill up from within.  Stop drawing from empty.
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It will take practise.
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Begin now.
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