The Hard Drug I Did Not Even Know I Was Taking Every Day Of My Life

I have always been the ‘saviour of the world’ type.

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I have always felt so responsible for the welfare of everyone.

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You could say that makes me bighearted and nice.

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Others could also say that that made me bossy and annoying 😃

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I say it was a waste of time.

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With hindsight, I see that I owned everyone else’s life and agenda even more than they personally did, and even more than I owned MY OWN!

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I wanted so desperately to ‘help’ them but it was no longer about them, it was about getting my own need to be needed, met.

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But I did not see it for a long time.

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I would have told you that I felt called by God to help and give and give and give.

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And There is truth in it but it is not the WHOLE TRUTH.

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A lot of the time, it was about me – trying to be safe (if everyone fit nicely into the box I created for them, then nothing too unpredictable can happen), trying to be sure that my own needs would be met (if I helped all these people and they saw that I helped them, they will want to help me in return, right?), trying to NEVER be alone (I didn’t like the darkness in my head so let me busy myself with everyone else’s drama so I never have to face it), trying to be liked and loved and certain and also, IN CONTROL of everyone I was ‘helping’.

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Ultimately, I was a very co-dependent girl.

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Now, I am not saying we should never help anyone else, but there is a difference between people pleasing and people serving.

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Serving comes from a place of knowing your true source is the Divine and then out of the overflow of love, abundance, freedom that comes with this connection, you give so freely to others.  It empowers you and empowers them and you never feel drained.

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Pleasing comes from a place of thinking that other people are your true source.  You need them to love you, to care for you, to need you.  You need to CONTROL them and coerce them to act in ways that suit you (for their own good, of course) because you do not even know who you are, without them.  It is a scary place to be in because you have to either give yourself up to try and get a very conditional love from others or you rebel and get angry, resistant but still feel desperate for attention.  No win, whatever you do.  And the people on the receiving end don’t feel all that great either.

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It is such a fine line, though…  So easy to cross from serving to pleasing, particularly when not feeling connected to the Divine or uncertain about how to do it.

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But I can tell you right now, from experience, that to live your life people pleasing is a waste of time.

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To live your life just trying to keep everyone happy, is a waste of time.

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To live your life rebelling in the hope that finally people will understand you, is a waste of time.

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YOu are better off just not even bothering to help anyone and just concentrate on feeling connected to the Divine for a season.

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If you dared to do what I suggest, I think you will suddenly realise how ADDICTED you are to being in the middle of all the drama and nonsense that you currently claim to hate.  It will feel like sudden withdrawal from a hard drug you did not even know you were taking.

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Yep, I was taking that drug for a long time.

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And it wasted a lot of my life.

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But thankfully, everything is ALWAYS working out for my good.  EVERYTHING can be used to propel me forward.

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So really, no true waste.

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I just choose to AWAKEN and live MY life from this moment forward.

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What of you?

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Ready to AWAKEN?

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Much Amazing Love

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