it is too easy to go through life complicating everything. Making things eans what they really do not mean and making yourself feel terrible in the process.
Just stop it.
1. If you want something, ask, ask, ask until you get it
Yes, you kinda know that if you do not ask for it, you will not get it but somehow, you make your not getting what you want, mean more than that. You make it mean that you are not supposed to get it or you are undeserving or that you are not good enough to get it, or that you are not allowed. When all it means is that you have not asked enough people. Nothing more than that.
If you want it, ask for it.
2. If you want it, take massive action to get it…
Sometimes, what you want will only come if you take enough action to get it and if you DO NOT STOP until you get it. Again, you can make your not having what you want mean all kinds of things OR you can just accept that you have not done the work you need to do to get it.
If you want it, take action towards it EVERY DAY UNTIL YOU GET IT
3. If you miss someone, call them or invite them out
You know how you do that thing where you think that the fact that someone has not called you in a while must mean that they do not care about you. Or you start counting how many times you have called them to set up a meetup and how many times they have NOT called you. You then go on to make it mean that they are not worth caring about because they obviously do not miss you…
STOP IT! If you want to speak to them, call them and enjoy the chat. If you want to see them, invite them out, enjoy getting together with them again. Simple.
4. If you want someone to understand, explain
Generally, people are unable to read minds and even when they do, they get it VERY wrong. So, instead of thinking anything negative about how much they obviously don’t love you if they cannot read between the lines, EXPLAIN IT!
YOu may even find that you do not understand as much as you thought you did about what you are feeling. The act of putting your thoughts into words will help you get clear about what is going on with you and it will certainly help the other person to have a clear idea. Swallow your pride, bury your ego and explain yourself.
5. If you don’t like something, just state it
Stop pretending to like something in order to protect feelings and then feel all resentful that this person does it again or buys you the same thing or cooks the same meal or whatever.
Be clear and make clear requests. It does not make you nasty to state clearly what you don’t like.
6. If you do like something, make a point of saying it too.
Everytime I meet someone new who I think is going to be in my life for more than that initial meeting, is definitely going to be told about my Galaxy chocolate addiction! That way, I know that if they consider getting chocolate for me, it had better not be the diary milk variety 😀
The other side of this is that it is great to offer compliments regularly when you like things. Send a wave of love, I say!
7. If you have questions, ask them
Nothing is too stupid to ask so rather than carry on feeling stupid about the things you do not know, ask the question and instantly get wiser. Also, don’t assume you know what someone is feeling or thinking without asking the question. This applies to business as well. Ask your customers what they want. It may help you design a business that serves more people and creates more wealth.
Let’s keep life simple.
Give up all those underlying thoughts and feelings that make you feel down because you are making assumptions about what others are thinking, doing, saying. Be clear.
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