Wow! Ok, so this post on Mother’s day is probably a bit late for the UK where I live. However, it is still on the way in the USA. As part of my various online activities, I have been focusing on mother’s day as it approaches. I find myself thinking about being a mother myself. In all my various business concerns, I am first and foremost a mother.Being a mother is a strange mixture of complications at times. I do not feel naturally maternal but I am compelled to look after my babies myself. This for me is a weird blend of joy and frustration. I want to be a business woman or a career woman or something outside the home and yet, I want to look after my children myself. I do not want to be one of those women with successful businesses but no relationship with their children. I want my children to be part of all I do. This, of course, is difficult as they are still very young at the moment but I am anticipating them joining in when they grow a bit older.
Anyway, I may go more into that at a later point.
For now, I want to celebrate mothers. I want to focus in on how great most of us are. We choose sometimes to give ourselves completely to our families for very little reward at times, so yes, it is nice to have a day when we are celebrated, don’t you think? Some may say it is a commercial holiday but so what? It is one day when our families can make a fuss about us and frankly I want to be made a fuss of.
This year, TLOML bought me a Mac Book Air and I love it (not as much as he would like as I am also attached to my Windows laptop :-)). It was a great present and I hope everyone reading this gets something from their other halves or children. Mine are too young at present to buy presents but cards were made for me and that was great.
What does it mean to be a mother?
Here are a few definitions according to the Free Dictionary –
a. A female person who is pregnant with or gives birth to a child.
b. A female person whose egg unites with a sperm, resulting in the conception of a child.
c. A woman who adopts a child.
d. A woman who raises a child.
And basically, this is what we are but we are so much more than this.
We raise children, we are the first people they call when they have a bad dream, we kiss all the booboos, we lay down our lives and learn to be unselfish, we learn patience as we wait for a very slow toddler to catch up with us. We learn patience as we wait for a new speaker to make it through a sentence before we jump in with a response, knowing instinctively that they want to say it all themselves without our help.
A mother understands what a child does not say.
— Jewish proverb
We interpret what they are saying to a father who may not be with them all the time and so not understand that he needs to read between the lines. We give up sleep to help them sleep.
All mothers are working mothers.
— Author Unknown
We feel guilty whether we stay at home with them or we go to work and leave them with someone else. Some of us share our breasts with them and wonder if our body will ever be ours again. We read the same story innumerable times. We listen to them whine and try to train them out of it while holding onto our sanity. We lose some old friends who do not really understand us because they do not have children yet.
Everybody wants to save the earth; nobody wants to help Mom with the dishes.
— P.J. O’Rourke
It might seem hard or horrid to an outsider, to a non-mother but we also know that…
We are better people for it. We ARE more patient, we are more loving, we are learning not to be selfish. We are learning about delayed gratification. We have even more of a reason to succeed in any endeavors we take on.
We become bigger people, especially if we are deliberate about it (You know how I feel about being deliberate about living!).
A mother holds her children’s hands for a while…their hearts forever.
— Author Unknown
And that is true. We are their best friend when they are young and they may pull away slightly as they grow but they remain firmly in our hearts. We are never the same after children and that is not a bad thing.
Mothers are the glue that holds everything together and I am proud to hold the title ‘Mother’, aren’t you?
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I hope you all get presents on Mother’s day and I hope you are appreciated by all. Take a look at some of my mother’s day articles as I put together some of the things I would not mind receiving.
All quotes from here