Let me be honest with you…
I can be pretty anti-social. You might read my writings and think I am the life and soul of the party and I can be at times. Mostly, at the moment, I cannot be bothered any longer to keep putting on my happy mask, start meeting new people, do the whole ‘making them laugh’ thing that I used to do so easily in order to appear fun, cool and social.
I feel out of touch with the people I consider friends because they mostly think I am always working, which is not true. Yes, I do work pretty hard and I am pretty focused on what I am creating in my business and my life, but I have a daily gap in my calendar for chilling out and taking my princesses out somewhere or the other.
And, as I say, I can certainly be anti-social in gatherings as I get bored pretty easily with mundane conversations about children’s behaviour or the weather or listening to the moaning about how tough life is (especially when they refuse to actually do anything about it!).
Yep, that bores me and it probably shows and so people leave me alone unless I put on my happy face and go talk. Yes, I know I am not helping myself into lots of relationships but do I want them?
Really, do I want them?
If I have to deny who I am, and become some happy-go-lucky person that loves gossiping and groaning about the hardships of life, then do I want it?
The answer is ‘no’ and so I generally seek out only those friends who truly see me and who I can be real with. And they are not many and mostly, they do not fully agree with my way of thinking on wealth and prosperity and purpose but they see me and transparency to a few people is important to me.
I used to have lots of friends – It was easier to put on my fake face and go talk but I am done with that. I am done with pretending to be someone I am not. Are you done with that yet?
You know that you have a calling to change lives in some way and yet, day by day, like I used to do, you spend time pandering to the needs of the people in your life just so that they like you and so that you do not get lonely.
But the thing I know and that you must remember, is that you are better off not having friends than having people in your life that distract you from your purpose and hold you back.
It may be because they feel better about things when you settle down to be a nobody – they feel they can control you more…
It may be that they really are concerned about you and the fact that you may be veering too far off the beaten track.
It may be for any reason but the result is the same, you are getting contracted and smaller.
And the bigger thing is that while you are pandering to the people in your life who do not understand you, the people who do, are passing you by…
And they can’t see the real part of you because you refuse to show it, for fear of losing the people you have now.
Do you see what I am saying?
How careful are you about who your kids hang out with? You may have moved house in order to get into the right schools, You might even pay for private education to get into the right schools because you know that your kids need to mix with the ‘right’ sort in order to excel so…
Why are you not more careful about you?
Why would you continually dampen the fire inside of you by not choosing wisely who you spend time with?
It seems crazy and yet, I used to do it and you possibly still do it.
And some days, I am tempted but then I say ‘yes’ instead of ‘no’ to a meetup and I hate it! Absolutely hate it! And for a long time, I would even try to force myself to like it! How silly!
And did you know that it is one of 12 main reasons businesses fail? When the entrepreneur asks advice from family and friends, instead of seeking out mentors, coaches or at the very least, someone with experience.
Why do you do that?
What is it for you?
And when will you choose to get deliberate about who you spend time with?
Yes, you will initially experience some loneliness as you level up and seek out new connections but then, as a result of the people you start to spend time with, you will become more expanded. More things become possible for you because you see that it is the norm for others in your new circle of friends and it is then easier to create your dreams.
Surely, a life well lived is worth the change.
Imagine, building a life and a business full of friends – None of the western societal need for boxing off the separate areas of your life – How cool could that be?
And like your business, it takes time to build it up but it is ceratinly not impossible to do so why not start now to do it?
Get deliberate about the people you spend your life on – Let them be YOUR people.
Fight for, create the life, the business you want.
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