Last time, we talked a bit about anger and how writing might help. Today, I will talk about another method I use to contain my anger.
Now some people are unimpressed by the concept of visualising anything and that may be you… Well, feel free to stop reading. For the rest of you, I find this to be a very effective way to deal with a lot of issues I face in day-to-day life.
So what does this mean?
It means using your imagination to deal with an issue. Your imagination is a powerful tool that can be used in a variety of ways. If you can create a vivid enough picture in your mind of the outcome you want, you can convince the rest of your body to go along with it.
So, in the case of anger, assuming it is a chronic issue that you want to deal with rather than a problem you are in the process of yelling about! Take 10 minutes or so a day to start with, Imagine a scenario that regularly causes you to feel rage. Try to really feel yourself in the moment, the colours, the smells, the feelings, everything.
Now, who do you trust? For spiritual people, consider God, your higher self, universe, whatever or maybe just your mum or grandparent or friend that you really trust. Now bring them into the situation with you in your imagination. Imagine them asking you why you feel so angry, if you are unsure then ask them for their input. Then listen, just listen and respond but mostly listen. When you are done with listening, the next step is to ask for an alternative way of dealing with the situation when next it arises. Again, listen and try to see the picture of this new way of reacting playing out in your mind. Make it vivid, make it real to yourself and your subconscious. Be a part of this image in your mind.
Now each time you do this exercise, just picture in your imagination, this new way of dealing with a situation time and time again. Do not force it on your outward life but watch how, if you consistently picture the altered scene, it becomes a reality for you without you trying too hard. One day, you realise you are reacting differently. A situation you would once have blown up about has become a situation that causes you to react patiently and achieve a different solution.
Give it a try for at least a week and tell me how you get on. I discovered this method in a book called [amazon_link id=”0671700758″ target=”_blank” container=”” container_class=”” ]Psychocybernetics[/amazon_link] – An amazing book which delves into changing your mind. Since reading that though, I have been hearing it in a number of places.
Enough for now, methinks. I may continue this at a different point. I hope you found it helpful.
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