If not for the fact that I am surrounded by people, I am sure I would be perfect…
But people, relationships seem to be a part of the human experience
And I was certainly brought up to consider them to be pretty darned important
So important, in fact, that you are supposed to lay down your life to keep them going, deny who you are, be who they want you to be, lay down your dreams and pretend to be happy with it.
EXCEPT I do not believe that anymore
I have not believed that for a while
In fact, I completely believe it is a HUGE mistake to try to be all things to all people when you have not the foggiest idea who the heck YOU ARE!
It leads to co-dependency and weakness and perpetrating the same flaws from one generation to the next as no one ever escapes.
Howver, my way of thinking has certainly led to weird family relationships…
I have felt hurt when I have been misunderstood
I have felt guilt when I have done things that went against the way I was brought up to go or even when I simply said ‘nope, I do not want to do that anymore’…
I have felt unworthy of good things because I have been so different from what family desired me to be and there is that part in the good book that says you must honour your parents in order for things to go well for you…
And I have hurt others as I do what I do…
But it has happened anyway
I am almost scared to write this because I might offend someone else
But I see you making choices about your life based on what others may think of you…
You are convinced that their opinion is important and that it is loving of you to lay down your own life to make them happy
You are tied up, scared to break free…
Scared of being alone
Scared of being considered selfish or horrid
And so you tie yourself up in knots, trying to keep the family happy
EXCEPT YOU ARE SAD
And they are not actually all that happy anyway because their happiness was never ever up to you.
And no matter how hard you try, you do not fit in and they know it and you know it
Yet, you keep trying
Now, I wish I could tell you that you can just walk away and it will all be easy but nope…
There are soul ties there
Some are good, loving ties – Nothing wrong with them…
However, others are not so good – they are co-dependent and make you feel like a prisoner of their ‘love’
And so it feels like you are breaking a piece of your soul and your heart to choose your own path.
There is also anger there…
And all because you seek freedom.
A freedom that will benefit everyone in the long run
Because ultimately, at the heart of you, you wish everyone well, don’t you?
But you forget that in the immediate moment when it feels like you are going to be the pariah that hurts everyone for no good reason…
But there is a good reason, honey…
You, breaking free to become all of you, IS A GOOD REASON.
YOU, discovering all that you are, IS A GOOD REASON.
YOU, powerful creature you, created in the image of the Divine, allowing yourself to be all of you, IS. A. GOOD. REASON!
I know it might seem selfish based on your conditioning…
But it is not selfish
It is the deliberate design of a great life
YOU MUST DISCOVER WHO YOU ARE
YOU MUST ALLOW YOURSELF TO GROW AND DEVELOP AND REALISE YOUR OWN POWER
It is in your divine nature to do that and there ain’t nothing wrong with that
Everyone must do this but you cannot make anyone else do it.
You, however, must not let them STOP YOU from doing it.
You do not and have never fit within their box for you, so please set yourself free.
Dare to go against the tide so that you can be your most powerful self and then, you can choose from a place of freedom how and if you want them in your life.
One of the biggest mistakes people make is trying to ‘help’ everyone else when they have not figured out how to love, trust and accept their own awesome self. They try to hide their insecurities in being all things to all people and end up wounded and wounding others.
I can tell you from experience that as you begin this journey to emotional freedom, you will get some things wrong
You will get other things right
It is all okay.
YOU MUST ALLOW yourself to grow if you are to live free, fulfilled and abundant.
If you are to make the difference you want to make on this planet
If you are to be fully self-expressed.
Again, it is scary.
I get that
However, I believe it is worth it.
I believe a deliberately designed life is worth it.
Allow yourself to be free, ok?
Much Amazing Love
Rosemary Nonny Knight
The Prosperity Minister