It is so easy to let the people in our life determine what we choose to do next.
You are comfortable. You have a life that others would die for and yet, there is a hunger within you.
A hunger to be more, to do more and to have more and yet…
Yet, you keep holding yourself back because you think it is the right thing to do.
But it is not.
It is not the right thing to do at all.
You have more to give. The world needs to hear what you are about and it is time to get past the things that hold you back and choose to actually step up your game and make your dreams a reality.
Step 1 – Laughter and doubt and fear for you
For me, one of the first things that happened when I announced the fact that I wanted to start in business was laughter! Laughter from a very, very close family member. There was a feeling that I was not cut out to run a successful business. There was a feeling that I was more of a book person and unable to do what it took to run a business and the first time that happened, I allowed it to mean something.
But that was only because I had not made the decision to start a business a ‘MUST’ yet. I still felt I had choices and I may as well go back to the comfortable life of being a pharmacist, rather than try to put myself out there and share the message I felt strongly within me.
You may face this one.
The one where everyone tells you that you are incapable and you ‘should’ be satisfied with what you have instead of going looking for more. They may even tell you that you will fail. They tell you for your own good, of course because they really do want you to be safe and I suppose you could listen.
Or you could make your success a ‘MUST’ – After all, you have always made whatever you put your mind to, a success so why would this be any different?
Yes, yes, they mean well but you do not have to listen!
The Next stage I faced was the
Step 2 – “Oh wow, you seem to be doing okay, I wonder how long that will last?”
So, you are still going and you seem to be doing okay and still you have people watching and waiting for you to fail. How annoying is that?
Are you going to pay attention or are you going to keep doing what you do? Sharing your message with the world regardless of what people think you are capable of, or not.
Step 3 – “You are so greedy and too focused on money”
Particularly, if you are a spiritual entrepreneur, you have this stage where people in your life think that you are getting too mercenary because you are focused on building your business. They do not see the passion to serve behind your desire to expand your business.
You know that the only way you are going to impact all the people you intend to impact, you have to have a huge business so you are focused, you are mixing with people on the same path as you and your old friends are wondering what happened to you and they want you back at their level. You, of course, are still friends with them because you value them. But it can feel tough when you see them not stepping up to be all they are created to be and it gets tough when they blatantly dis you on your facebook profile or ignore you for weeks on end.
But hey, what can you do?
Is your business a must?
Step 4 – “You need to give me all your money”
OK, so this may only apply if you are from one of those extended families where you are never allowed to leave the pack. You are supposed to send money home to the village and all the extended family members that you do not even know because now you are doing well and you HAVE TO share.
And the truth is, you don’t mind sharing but you hate the fact that people DO NOT give you the choice. It is an expectation and you are too much of a rebel/leader to just toe the party line so they get the wrong side of you.
Or you do it out of guilt but resent it and resent them!
Step 5 – Everyone loves you again!
So, you have gone through all that trauma and emotional tension and everyone suddenly loves you again and are now asking you for advice and “how did you do it?” and inviting you to all the events and claiming to be your friends and how they stood by you through all the tough times.
And you just smile and wish they had been this nice all the time.
Lesson to be learnt – People are fickle. Do not let their opinions affect you. Listen but make up your own mind and frankly, if they remain annoying to be around, make the choice not to be around them.
Would you like to know how to get your first five customers online, pop on over to RosemaryNonnyKnight.com/5customers and pick up the free download which gives you a step-by-step process to make it so.
It is time to fight for, to create the life the business you want.