Why do people live their whole life as a follower when they had it within them to lead?
For a long time, I tried very hard to fit, to be like everyone else.
I tried to play my ‘other- person -appointed’ role – you know what I mean… Trying hard to be what others want you to be, You trust them. You think they know what is best for you so you go along with it. And you ignore the fact that you just do not fit in the hole that is supposedly designed for you.
You ignore the fact that you feel wrong inside…
You listen to the ‘leader’ and you find yourself thinking I can do this better. Why am I listening to this dude? And yet, you stay, you listen, you grumble, you complain but you stay in place.
And you know why you stay?
You know why I stayed in these limiting roles?
I stayed because I was scared…
I stayed because I felt protected in the space that someone else had created.
I was scared to do my own thing.
I knew I was called to be a leader and yet, it all seemed too wild, too nerve – wracking, too overwhelming to try and start up my own thing.
It seemed safer to stay under someone else’s banner.
They did all the scary stuff and I just moaned if it was not the way I wanted it to be.
For a season, I completely refused to take any responsibility for my own life.
I wanted others to do the forefront stuff and I told myself I am better at supporting them. I tried to fit into a supporting role but it just never completely worked.
I kept trying to live my life through them and then complain when they did not do it the way I thought they should.
And then I got angry, really angry that they treated me in a way I considered to be badly.
I forgot that I put myself there.
I forgot that I was supposed to lead and I was allowing fear to make me a follower and I could not settle into it without shutting my insides down completely. Though I did try for a while, but yet, the force was too strong with me.
Is the force too strong with you?
Are you hiding in a job, in a supporting role at church, in your role as parent or some other place?
Are you trying to live your dreams through someone else’s life?
And getting upset with them when they do not do it your way?!!!
Understand this, you are a leader.
You know you are called to lead…
But you cannot see how to do it. All you see is the hardship that may come your way if you step out from under your current protection and stand out, be seen.
I get it!
It is true… when you step up and start to live out YOUR life, it will seem tough.
You will be destroying other people’s expectations, you will feel like you stand alone, you will wonder why you do this to yourself.
And yet, you will feel excited, life will start to open up in ways you never thought possible for you. All that stuff that seemed impossible, will suddenly start to seem possible.
You will find your people. The ones you are called to serve because now that your light is shining, they can see and they are attracted to it.
You will find people who hold you accountable and challenge you higher up.
And life will no longer be full of disappointment, despair, resentment and regret…
You will know you are on path. Even though you will work hard, you’ll love your work.
This can be your life if you will accept the leadership mantle.
By the way, Leaders need to choose to step into each day powerfully. They need to take a moment to reflect on what they want to create that day, they need to be permanently up levelling their thinking in order to remain capable of leading others authentically and powerfully, so the Deliberate Millionaire has been created to support you in doing that.