When last did you take the time to ask yourself if this life you are living is one you chose yourself?
Did you just fall into it because it was expected of you? Or did you really choose it?
And tell me more about that underlying source of despair that seems to surround you… when last did you pay attention and ask yourself the tough questions?
Or have you decided that this is your life and you may as well put up with it.
Why put up with it?
You don’t have to, you know. You could choose a different path. You could decide that you are worth the investigation.
Yes, I know that you will come against opposition from those who care for you…
You will even feel guilt that you are questioning the status quo. And you will feel a little deluded that you think there is another way, after all, everyone is happy enough so why can’t you settle.
For the longest time, I lived like this as well. Thankfully, I have always been the questioning type so most major life decisions were made independently and yet, I continually felt guilt about some of my choices.
The church I went to was disapproved of…
The husband I married was also disapproved of…
But I figured I was the only one that got to answer for my life so I had to make my own choices when it came to my faith and my life partner…
I gave in about my education and became a pharmacist but have now removed myself from it (Woohoo!).
I am mostly misunderstood by family and quite a few friends but this is the thing, my eyes are opened to the possibilities available to me so I cannot return to passivity.
Maybe, you want something different for your life, maybe you don’t even know that that is the truth for you, you just know that ‘this’ is not all there is…
You wonder how to tap into the ‘more’ that you know is out there when there are so many responsibilities, so many demands on your life and yes, there is fear that you are a dreamer and you will end up alone and broke unless you toe the party line.
Mostly, you try not to think about it…
Listen, everything does not need to change immediately so put the fear to one side.
Do, however, ask your self what you would be doing if you really felt you had complete freedom.
Start at the superficial level and you will hear yourself tell the lie about not being able to afford it …
And then, go deeper. (Hint: It is never about the money)
Realise that you always figure out a way to get what you want when you feel you are allowed to want it. And you always talk yourself out of the things you feel you are not allowed.
And that is cool for the frivolous things but you have started to consider ‘you’ to be frivolous. You have started to think that the things you want, the desires in your heart are wrong and need to be nipped in the bud and all because you keep living to the expectations of other people.
And you have been doing that for so long that you do not even realize you are still doing it.
It is time for you to wake up again and rip off the layers that surround you so that you can actually start to enjoy life.
Really enjoy it, rather than put up with it.
You were not created only to struggle. This life is an experience so why not allow yourself to experience as much as possible?
You have to make the choice to wake up and discover you.
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